Teenage sex...busting the myths.

So what are the myths of teenage sex? You may know the answer to this one already. Maybe you've already made your mind up about it. Before you do that...hear me out.

Let me ask you...

...do you know anyone your age who has been or is pregnant? Ask them sometime if that child has changed their life. Chances are...it has...in unbelievable ways. Being a teen parent isn't easy.

Think of it this way. If you were in that position...

...you now have responsibilities you didn't have before. Now you're responsible to feed, clothe, bathe (oh yeah, and change) that little human being sitting on your lap.

Maybe you've heard this argument...

"But it won't happen to us. We'll be careful!"

All you have to do is take a stroll through the mall to know that doesn't work. I'm always amazed at how many teens I see pushing baby buggies!

And too many times I've known young people who have engaged recklessly in teenage sex and ended up pregnant. It happens a lot more than anyone realizes.

Also, the threat of STD's (sexually transmitted diseases) should have anyone thinking twice about teenage sex. Study after study has clearly proven that STD's are on the rise. And these threats find ways around so called "protection."

Don't let anyone fool you...you will never improve your life with sex before marriage.

Although these arguments are pretty good...Christian teens have an even stronger reason for not engaging in teenage sex...

...they want to please God!

But does God's Word really say anything about teenage sex and sex before marriage? Let's find out. So grab your Bible or click here for just about any version you want and we'll check out what the Bible says about sex before marriage.

God's take on sex before marriage.

The Bible clearly states that premarital sex is wrong. I Thessalonians 4:3 says...

For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication.

Fornication is just another name for sexual sin. It includes many sexual sins. But it's clear that sex before marriage is included. So called teenage sex qualifies as "fornication." God's Word says it's wrong...so don't do it!

It's as simple as that.

Still not convinced about God's idea of teenage sex?

Try I Corinthians 6:15-18. It's pretty clear that God doesn't like sex before marriage at all.

Also, God instructs everyone (including teens) in the Ten Commandments not to "commit adultery" (Exodus 20.) That includes engaging in sex before marriage. Any sexual relationship outside of marriage qualifies as adultery. It's a "no-no" according to God.

And to top it all off...God gives us another choice in Romans 12:1...

I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service.

Just so you know...holy means "different." That means your body is something special. God expects you to obey Him in everything you do...especially regarding how you treat your body.

God wants you to be "holy," different for Him. That means you shouldn't be doing things things just because your friends do it. And that also means you don't do things that He tells you not to.

One of those things is sex before marriage.

Wrapping it up...have a plan

So you'll need a plan in this messed up world. Want one?

Try the book of Song of Solomon. You probably haven't ever heard a sermon preached or memorized a Bible verse from that book. There's even the chance you've never even heard of the book!

That's a shame...because Song of Solomon is one of the clearest, purest expressions of love found anywhere. It's a conversation between two lovers before, during and after they are married. They express their love for each other through the whole book. But their conversation repeats an interesting phrase. In fact, that same group of words is mentioned three times...in 2:7, 3:5 and 8:4...

stir not up, nor awake my love, till he please.

What does this mean?

The book is actually a story. If you look at it, you see a young bride preparing for her wedding. As she tries to deal with her feelings before the "Big Day" she makes the statement we saw above. She knew that it was a hectic time for her and her "lover." But she also knew it was a time when passion and lust could get out of control.

So she begged those around her to keep her accountable. That's what that phrase is talking about. She knew passionate feelings could never be controlled by one person. So she got help from those around her.

Sounds like a great idea!

But it wasn't my idea...it's in the Bible. If you're finding it difficult to keep out of the way of temptation then get help. Ask your pastor, a sibling or your parents (yes, I said parents) to help keep you accountable. But get someone you trust.

Better yet...never date alone. Although this may seem a little drastic, it may be necessary. If you have difficulty keeping your mind (or your hands) in the right place...double dating is a necessity. But make sure you're accountable.


God expects you to be holy...different...for Him. Don't be like the rest of the world. That's not how a Christian teen should act. And that's not how you should be.

If you've accepted Christ as your Savior you need to listen to God's Word...

I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service.

Don't cheaply give your body away! That's what teenage sex is. Your body doesn't belong to you...it belongs to God now. So "present" it to God as a "living sacrifice."


He gave His Son to die for you (John 3:16.) Giving yourself is the least you can do to thank Him.

Don't engage in teenage sex...honor God with your body.

If you've read this and have never accepted Christ as your Lord and Savior click here to find out how to become a child of God. Without His help, you'll never overcome the problem of teenage sex or any other spiritual problem. Accept Him today!

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